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Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Here’s Why Nice, Caring, Loving And Generous People Finish First And Jerks Finish Last

Here’s Why Nice, Caring, Loving And Generous People Finish First And Jerks Finish Last

The only beings on Earth that utilize the currency we call money is other people, yes? Any money you get has to come from other people. It does not come from your business; not your job, not the universe, not the sky, trees, cows or plants—unless you happen to sell those. You get the point though. Other people have to give you their money in order for you to make money.

The only question is: why would other people give you their money?
The answer is because you’re helping them solve some sort of problem, whether you’re employed or self-employed.

But here’s the next question: If you had a choice of two people to give your money to in order to solve a problem, which would you rather give it to: the person who can solve the problem and be totally pleasant, and friendly, and kind, and considerate, or the other person who can solve the problem but is the opposite of all of that?

The nice person! This may sound trite, but you wouldn’t believe how many people I come across who have this idea that in order to make it in business, you have to be an A-hole of sorts in order to not get trampled over or something.

Who the hell is saying that if you’re nice then you don’t do well? That’s crazy!

You do way better being kind, generous, caring and considerate because people want to give you their money, or people want to work for you, or you want to work for them if that’s the case. You don’t want to work for a jerk and you don’t want to give your money to a jerk.

Now I’ll be clear about one thing …a lot of rich people are assholes. But you know what? A lot of poor people are assholes, too! What the hell does that have to do with money?

The nicer you are, the more kind you are, the more generous you are, the more giving you are, the more concerned you are, and the more compassionate you are, the richer you’re going to freaking get, because people want to give you their money to nice people!

It honestly bugs the crap out of me; there are a few rich people that are jerks and now everybody who’s rich is a jerk.

Will you be a jerk?

“When you get a certain amount, money corrupts people.” Really?

At what number will you be corrupt? When will you go from a nice person in your heart to an a-hole? A million dollars? “Oh yes, now I’m a jerk.”

If you find yourself being a jerk, what do you do? Take a fricking breath, go to a retreat, go in the woods, go to nature, get back to your center and be nice again.

If you think that nice people don’t get rich, why don’t you be nice and get rich so you can show people how to do it?

It doesn’t mean you let people walk all over you. That’s silly. That’s disempowering. You be who you are, you don’t let people walk all over you, but you can be nice about it, too.

We’re alchemists, which means by our own thoughts we determine what is what; if it’s good, bad, right, wrong, up, down, because everything is relative in the world of duality and paradox we live in.

Nothing is anything until you make it something. You’re the one with the magic wand. You’re the one who’s giving meaning to everything. If you think you have to be a prick in order to be rich—and being rich happens to be more important to you—then of course you’ll be a rich prick even if you really don’t want to be.

If you think you have to be a prick in order to be rich, and being nice is more important to you than being rich, then guess what? You’ll be nice, but you’ll probably be broke too, all based on a false idea that success and niceness are mutually exclusive.

They’re both important. Stop separating them; they’re one in the same. Then more problems you solve for more people in the kindest, most caring, compassionate, considerate, and humorous way (don’t forget people like being around fun) you can muster, the more materially successful and emotionally and spiritually fulfilled you will become.

What do you think? What are some sneaky self-defeating ideas you have heard about the relationship between money and personal character? Have you held yourself back with these ideas? How did you overcome that?

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